The Personal to the Impersonal
The “all about me” story can become a painful one. If you have become fed up with talking about “my life, my beliefs my opinions, my belongings, my money, my life style...” then perhaps the futility of these unending and repetitive stories is beginning to show itself.
Take a look and see if you can recognize that many of these stories about “me” are simply an attempt to defend who you THINK you are. Without these believed stories you might find you are not who you think you are. The personal I can never be satisfied because it is fundamentally inauthentic. Its very nature is filled with desire. There is no personal I that is constant and unchanging. The personal I knows no stillness and moves between pleasure and pain in response to the senses. The personal I is an insatiable idea constantly protecting itself and seeking acceptance and love.
This unending cycle has no resolution. It can only be recognized as a futile play and abandoned. Let the “all about me” story fade out. At this point you will find there is something that is watching the play of the one who wants everything to be about itself. The one who sees the hungry personal I does not require the world to rotate around itself. The impersonal I has a knowing that all that happens does not have a direct impact on who you are. Simply put, the impersonal I does not take things personally.
If your reference point has moved from the personal to the impersonal I, then emotional reactions will have lessened greatly. The search for love and attention will have taken a back seat and judgement of others largely subsided. Without a doubt, the impersonal I is a reference point from which you can operate with significantly less suffering. A sense of being less self-absorbed arises.